A series of essays towards General Convention in 2003
Sheila and I have been "married", "in relationship", "together", "in a committed relationship", whatever you want to call it, for 26 years. We have 2 sons - 16 and 19 years old - we live like any other couple. We work, pay taxes, worry about the boys, try to decide if there's enough money to go on a vacation or do we put in new plumbing; and we fall asleep in front of the T.V. waiting for Robert to come home by curfew. How is that any different from what any other couple goes through? I am loved by God, I am a human being, and I deserve to be treated as such. I am not a second-class citizen, and my sexual orientation and relationship with Sheila is not going to make or break any straight person's marriage or relationship.
We left the Roman church because our relationship was considered a sin. We could have handled that, knowing what our personal relationship was with God, but we did not want our boys growing up in a church where their parents were considered sinners and that they (the boys) were born "in sin." We came to All Saints - Pasadena, because it offered some hope and welcomed and supported us as a family.
I am not a politician, I do not think in those terms and so do not have a pulse on when the right or wrong time is for pushing forward an issue - I just know that every time people say "Now is not the right time for the Episcopal church to say yes to the full and complete inclusion of gays and lesbians, that it will cause people to leave the church," -- they say no to people like me, that I am "less than," that there is somehow something wrong with who I am and how I live my life.
I know that God loves me. I personally really don't need a church to tell me who I am and that I have value, but it would make a difference to my boys to have this church that they were raised in confirm their parents' relationship as full and complete within the church.
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